(Akiit.com) A break-up is one of the most difficult things that you can face in life, and it can seem as though your world is falling apart around you. What are you going to do without that person that you cared about so deeply; the person with whom you shared everything? Whilst it can seem like you’ll never recover, and that aching pain in your chest will never subside, there are many ways that you can help yourself to get onto the path towards healing. We’ve noted down some ideas, to help you to mend a broken heart.
Think about the bad times
OK, this sounds like a pretty horrible thing to say. But if you’re experiencing a break-up for a reason – maybe you’ve been arguing a lot, or one of you cheated – then you need to keep this in mind. Of course, thinking about the good times is important too, and you shouldn’t only dwell on the things that made your relationship fail. However, you really need to think about things logically, rather than emotionally. Was your relationship more bad than good? Keep this in mind, even if it seems like you’d do anything to have that person back right now. Romanticizing the whole thing really won’t help you in the long-run.
Prioritize your future
Whilst it can, at times, seem as if you can never have a happy future without this person, the truth is that you definitely will. In fact, a few months down the line, you’ll be back to prioritizing what really matters: your future, and what you want to do with it. A break-up is a perfect time to take on a brand new perspective, and to put yourself first again. Think about all of the things that you want to do in the future, and how you’re going to work on making sure that you achieve them. Jumping straight into a different relationship is a bad idea, so be sure to focus on you, and what you want, for a while after your break-up.
Stay as busy as possible
When you go through a break-up, lying in bed, crying, and watching sad movies, can seem like the best way to deal with things. After all, you can’t go outside when you’re a bit of a crying mess, can you? However, after the mandatory two-day crying and wallowing period, you need to make sure that you’re getting out there, and keeping yourself as busy as possible. You will only feel worse if you stay inside in your pyjamas, ranting to your housemates about how you’re going to die without this person and you don’t know how you’re possibly going to go on. Keep busy, and get out of the house as often as you can.
So, if you want to get over a break-up and get on the path to healing, then make sure that you remember these simple things. Whilst it is really difficult now, it does get better, so hold onto some hope for your future. You can do it, we believe in you!
Staff Writer; Roy Jackson